Last year I discovered that my son, who is autistic, had come out as gay. This devastated me. Many thoughts ran through my head, and I began to wonder if he had been abused. I talked to him, but he denied it. I didn’t believe him: modesty prevents young people from opening up. Today I can only pray, but I don’t feel peace. This doubt consumes me. Please: sir Gomulka, do you know of any psychological methodology that can teach external signs that a person has been abused?
While I am not aware of a "psychological methodology that can teach external signs that a person has been abused," I do know a homosexual abuse victim who is autistic and who told me that he discovered that there seems to be a higher prevalence of homosexuality among people who are autistic. It caught my attention because every homosexual priest whom I know who was accused of homosexual predation was himself abused. If you would like to consult with him, please email me at genegomulka@gmail.com.
I am in my early 40s and unfortunately had a harsh awakening in my early 20s when I visited the Jesuits in the northeast US. I had grown up in a traditional Catholic home and a family history of Jesuit connections going back to the 1930s-50s. As you can guess, the Society of those decades had since changed, which I did not learn until I was surrounded by seemingly endless groups of effete men who had no idea, remotely, of what a straight Catholic vocation is. They were and are in positions of influence despite glaringly obvious homosexual affinities and personalities. I was repulsed. The discernment did not last long as I realized I would be a minority. That order should be suppressed. Next I moved on to the Benedictines whom I didn't trust either, and a diocesan vocations director, who seemed straight but the seminary had a highly questionable rep for gay drinking, flirting and faculty. There is an undercurrent of effeminacy everywhere I looked and I could not live in that environment.
You were right to miss out the Benedictines, if their English brethren are anything to go by. Unfortunately they ran several boys schools which combined maximum temptation with maximum opportunity. Fr Lawrence (aka Fr Florence) was one of the teachers who disappeared to the Balkans. One of my astute parishioners heard that he was hiding in a monastery in Croatia, but he was caught in Kosova.
“All churches that condemn us will be closed.” This is what Michael Swift, a “gay revolutionary,” declared in the February 1987 issue of the Gay Community News.
Thank you. All sad beyond belief. It seems only an act of God could turn this around. We must pray for our priests and seminarians. Our diocese is well known for our large number of seminarians. I pray they lead chaste lives forever. Mother Mary, pray for us.
I am not sure that the Holy Father has a desire to hear my opinion, but my experience is solely from the point of view of minor benefactor. I had a relatively short period time of dealing with an order whose founder would ultimately be excluded from the order he founded. The reports that floated in were so horrific that I simply ceased making further contributions. I am simply unable to understand how such an institution does not constitute a scandal involving the whole church, and why the order was not simply suppressed, students sent home to apply to another seminary or novitiate. I am not sure it is even practical to set apostolic visitations to every seminary in America, but it would be worthwhile to clean up the North American College first. But in the case of the school I mentioned, it would have made sense to close it and suppress the order. The things I experienced from a safe distance still make me feel a need for a shower. If Pope Leo simply closed facilities with zipper issues, it would sound a silent warning that the time for playing around is over.
I'm very fortunate to go to an Ordinariate parish with a married priest (who himself has six children). Needless to say families and men flock to our parish. We just confirmed another 6 adults into the church. I have long argued that we need to remove the celibacy requirement from the priesthood. However, the homosexuals will never let it happen because then their lock on positions of power in the church would be threatened. The "gig would be up".
You are spot on. My Anglican priest friends who converted and are now priests in the English Ordinariate tell me they are hated by the other diocesan clergy because a very high percentage of these clergy are homosexuals. Most of the Anglican priests come with their wives and children and upset the gay apple cart in the dioceses.
Thank you o ce again for bringing this to our attention. I continue to assert that a married priesthood would be much more wholesome and inspiring than a caste of sworn celibate, but I always draw the ire of those who are under the spell of the ideal of sacred virgins.
Please stay forever strong Fr. Gene I have no doubt that these details are a direct rebuke of Satan & the diseased souls that have sullied the garment.
Last year I discovered that my son, who is autistic, had come out as gay. This devastated me. Many thoughts ran through my head, and I began to wonder if he had been abused. I talked to him, but he denied it. I didn't believe it: modesty prevents young people from opening up. Today I can only pray, but I don't feel peace. This doubt consumes me. Please: Sir Gomulka, do you know of any psychological methodology that can teach external signs that a person has been abused?
I’m no Biblical scholar and I’d appreciate it if others could please weigh in here, but let’s look at the ideal of virginity.
To the best of my understanding John was the only “virgin” apostle. His calling was distinct from the other apostles in paramount ways.
John didn’t abandon Jesus in His passion and death and Jesus entrusted his mother to John as He also entrusted the position of Mother of the Church to the Blessed Virgin Mary. So I believe we need to continue to hold “faithful virginity” in high esteem.
Also, I’m under the impression that the Apostle John actually did suffer martyrdom but the attempt to end his life was unsuccessful. God had other plans and entrusted the Book of Revelation to John’s execution while he was in exile on an island.
And what of the other Apostles, and what of their families? Martyrdom?
They all loved God and the Son on God so deeply and indeed completely enough to suffer martyrdom.
Can the similarities and contrasts between these very distinct and yet similar paths help guide us in our efforts to understand God’s will regarding the Priesthood?
I’ll end like I usually do with the prayer “Virgo Potens Ora Pro Nobis!” Because yes, God did make possible a Virgin Vessel and a Virgin Birth in the Incarnation of His only begotten Son.
And after the Consecration of the Precious Blood I always pray, “Most Precious Blood of Jesus, bringing forth virgin martyrs even from amongst the innocence of children, save us!”
Many children “loose their virginity” before they have any concept of what virginity even is. And considering the frequency of child abuse (including Satanic Sexual Abuse) and the abomination of the trafficking of children, isn’t that reality in need of intense prayer and action? This really is what moved me to begin praying this daily years ago.
When someone confesses a sin of theft, some type of concrete restitution is required for forgiveness? Yet, when it comes to confession of the sin of “theft of the innocence of children”, there is no requirement for the penitent regarding the theft of something far more sacred than “property”!!! How can this be?
The apostles who were married all, without exception, put away their wives (as brother and sister) to live in celibacy. This is the mode of life to which married men who are called to the priesthood and diaconate should adhere. The whole Ordinariate thing is a mess, I hear of scandalous advice from married Ordinariate priests advising parishioners to separate and seek annulment in relation to modern ideas of "relationship breakdown".
Total consecration to Our Lord Jesus Christ, His light and sweet yoke, carrying our crosses. What happened? Defects of sacramental grace exploding with the Novus Ordo rites have massively contributed to the problems and resulted in a tiny pool of faithful who have sought and had bestowed upon them The Fullness of Grace necessary to live in heroic virtue. Come Holy Ghost!
"The apostles who were married all, without exception, put away their wives (as brother and sister) to live in celibacy." Having taught Dogmatic Theology in a seminary that has since closed, I would love to have you cite your source for this statement. You are defending a practice that has not been practiced, nor currently is practiced by almost all Roman Catholic clergy. You don't win an argument by providing false information,
Yea I the 2% number is bullshit. I think if we fire the gay bishops we would be in good shape but tw fair to say this is the gayest the church has ever been
Unfortunately, many Catholics don’t realize that being in favor of optional celibacy does not mean being against the celibacy option.
Last year I discovered that my son, who is autistic, had come out as gay. This devastated me. Many thoughts ran through my head, and I began to wonder if he had been abused. I talked to him, but he denied it. I didn’t believe him: modesty prevents young people from opening up. Today I can only pray, but I don’t feel peace. This doubt consumes me. Please: sir Gomulka, do you know of any psychological methodology that can teach external signs that a person has been abused?
While I am not aware of a "psychological methodology that can teach external signs that a person has been abused," I do know a homosexual abuse victim who is autistic and who told me that he discovered that there seems to be a higher prevalence of homosexuality among people who are autistic. It caught my attention because every homosexual priest whom I know who was accused of homosexual predation was himself abused. If you would like to consult with him, please email me at genegomulka@gmail.com.
Yes. I will contact you. I really need answers as I am very distressed. Please wait. God bless you.
I am in my early 40s and unfortunately had a harsh awakening in my early 20s when I visited the Jesuits in the northeast US. I had grown up in a traditional Catholic home and a family history of Jesuit connections going back to the 1930s-50s. As you can guess, the Society of those decades had since changed, which I did not learn until I was surrounded by seemingly endless groups of effete men who had no idea, remotely, of what a straight Catholic vocation is. They were and are in positions of influence despite glaringly obvious homosexual affinities and personalities. I was repulsed. The discernment did not last long as I realized I would be a minority. That order should be suppressed. Next I moved on to the Benedictines whom I didn't trust either, and a diocesan vocations director, who seemed straight but the seminary had a highly questionable rep for gay drinking, flirting and faculty. There is an undercurrent of effeminacy everywhere I looked and I could not live in that environment.
Unfortunately, there are many similar stories like yours.
You were right to miss out the Benedictines, if their English brethren are anything to go by. Unfortunately they ran several boys schools which combined maximum temptation with maximum opportunity. Fr Lawrence (aka Fr Florence) was one of the teachers who disappeared to the Balkans. One of my astute parishioners heard that he was hiding in a monastery in Croatia, but he was caught in Kosova.
https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-london-50165998
“All churches that condemn us will be closed.” This is what Michael Swift, a “gay revolutionary,” declared in the February 1987 issue of the Gay Community News.
Thank you. All sad beyond belief. It seems only an act of God could turn this around. We must pray for our priests and seminarians. Our diocese is well known for our large number of seminarians. I pray they lead chaste lives forever. Mother Mary, pray for us.
I am not sure that the Holy Father has a desire to hear my opinion, but my experience is solely from the point of view of minor benefactor. I had a relatively short period time of dealing with an order whose founder would ultimately be excluded from the order he founded. The reports that floated in were so horrific that I simply ceased making further contributions. I am simply unable to understand how such an institution does not constitute a scandal involving the whole church, and why the order was not simply suppressed, students sent home to apply to another seminary or novitiate. I am not sure it is even practical to set apostolic visitations to every seminary in America, but it would be worthwhile to clean up the North American College first. But in the case of the school I mentioned, it would have made sense to close it and suppress the order. The things I experienced from a safe distance still make me feel a need for a shower. If Pope Leo simply closed facilities with zipper issues, it would sound a silent warning that the time for playing around is over.
Thank You Monsignor!
You’re very welcome!
I'm very fortunate to go to an Ordinariate parish with a married priest (who himself has six children). Needless to say families and men flock to our parish. We just confirmed another 6 adults into the church. I have long argued that we need to remove the celibacy requirement from the priesthood. However, the homosexuals will never let it happen because then their lock on positions of power in the church would be threatened. The "gig would be up".
You are spot on. My Anglican priest friends who converted and are now priests in the English Ordinariate tell me they are hated by the other diocesan clergy because a very high percentage of these clergy are homosexuals. Most of the Anglican priests come with their wives and children and upset the gay apple cart in the dioceses.
Thank you o ce again for bringing this to our attention. I continue to assert that a married priesthood would be much more wholesome and inspiring than a caste of sworn celibate, but I always draw the ire of those who are under the spell of the ideal of sacred virgins.
Please stay forever strong Fr. Gene I have no doubt that these details are a direct rebuke of Satan & the diseased souls that have sullied the garment.
Last year I discovered that my son, who is autistic, had come out as gay. This devastated me. Many thoughts ran through my head, and I began to wonder if he had been abused. I talked to him, but he denied it. I didn't believe it: modesty prevents young people from opening up. Today I can only pray, but I don't feel peace. This doubt consumes me. Please: Sir Gomulka, do you know of any psychological methodology that can teach external signs that a person has been abused?
I read this and wept for several hours and am weeping still....
I’m no Biblical scholar and I’d appreciate it if others could please weigh in here, but let’s look at the ideal of virginity.
To the best of my understanding John was the only “virgin” apostle. His calling was distinct from the other apostles in paramount ways.
John didn’t abandon Jesus in His passion and death and Jesus entrusted his mother to John as He also entrusted the position of Mother of the Church to the Blessed Virgin Mary. So I believe we need to continue to hold “faithful virginity” in high esteem.
Also, I’m under the impression that the Apostle John actually did suffer martyrdom but the attempt to end his life was unsuccessful. God had other plans and entrusted the Book of Revelation to John’s execution while he was in exile on an island.
And what of the other Apostles, and what of their families? Martyrdom?
They all loved God and the Son on God so deeply and indeed completely enough to suffer martyrdom.
Can the similarities and contrasts between these very distinct and yet similar paths help guide us in our efforts to understand God’s will regarding the Priesthood?
I’ll end like I usually do with the prayer “Virgo Potens Ora Pro Nobis!” Because yes, God did make possible a Virgin Vessel and a Virgin Birth in the Incarnation of His only begotten Son.
And after the Consecration of the Precious Blood I always pray, “Most Precious Blood of Jesus, bringing forth virgin martyrs even from amongst the innocence of children, save us!”
Many children “loose their virginity” before they have any concept of what virginity even is. And considering the frequency of child abuse (including Satanic Sexual Abuse) and the abomination of the trafficking of children, isn’t that reality in need of intense prayer and action? This really is what moved me to begin praying this daily years ago.
When someone confesses a sin of theft, some type of concrete restitution is required for forgiveness? Yet, when it comes to confession of the sin of “theft of the innocence of children”, there is no requirement for the penitent regarding the theft of something far more sacred than “property”!!! How can this be?
The apostles who were married all, without exception, put away their wives (as brother and sister) to live in celibacy. This is the mode of life to which married men who are called to the priesthood and diaconate should adhere. The whole Ordinariate thing is a mess, I hear of scandalous advice from married Ordinariate priests advising parishioners to separate and seek annulment in relation to modern ideas of "relationship breakdown".
Total consecration to Our Lord Jesus Christ, His light and sweet yoke, carrying our crosses. What happened? Defects of sacramental grace exploding with the Novus Ordo rites have massively contributed to the problems and resulted in a tiny pool of faithful who have sought and had bestowed upon them The Fullness of Grace necessary to live in heroic virtue. Come Holy Ghost!
"The apostles who were married all, without exception, put away their wives (as brother and sister) to live in celibacy." Having taught Dogmatic Theology in a seminary that has since closed, I would love to have you cite your source for this statement. You are defending a practice that has not been practiced, nor currently is practiced by almost all Roman Catholic clergy. You don't win an argument by providing false information,
Yea I the 2% number is bullshit. I think if we fire the gay bishops we would be in good shape but tw fair to say this is the gayest the church has ever been
https://onepeterfive.com/700-years-celibacy/
https://www.catholicculture.org/culture/library/view.cfm?recnum=7052