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Augustinus's avatar

I have wondered many times what it must be like for a couple preparing for marriage to have preparation meetings with their local priest or pastor. Specifically, I mean couples that regularly attend Mass, and hunger for closeness to the sacraments and the Lord.

What is it like when they meet with a priest, even a young one, for such meetings, and he's gay, closeted, and has no idea what it is like for two heterosexuals to be attracted to each other? And who has no idea of the import of a father's leadership in the family? Masculine strength and leadership of his parish community? A couple's openness to children? What is it to desire a family when your sexual orientation is a dead end? Does he just recite a script he learned in the seminary?

This isn't taking into account couples that get married in the Church just to please Aunt Augusta. I doubt an effeminate, or ambiguously oriented priest will inspire them to return to the practice of their faith.

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William Murphy's avatar

Thanks so much, Fr Gene.

Another obvious way that a senior homosexual cleric's ministry is going to be affected is sheer crude blackmail. The obvious US example is Archbishop Weakland of Milwaukee who gave 450K USD of diocesan money to his ex-boyfriend.

https://eu.sj-r.com/story/lifestyle/faith/2009/06/14/memoir-offers-glimpse-into-life/41740980007/

Another highly suspect example is Pope Paul VI who was allegedly caught by police coming out of a gay brothel in Milan in the 1950s.

https://www.independent.com.mt/articles/2018-11-11/newspaper-letters/Paul-s-homosexuality-6736199110

It probably did not help that Italy had one of the largest Communist parties in the world. Any pelvic urges by senior clergy would probably arrive on a Moscow desk. So Paul was probably open to blackmail either on his own account or in respect of his senior bent friends. It is one of the most plausible explanations as to why Vatican II did not condemn Communism and why Paul's Ostpolitik favoured Communism.

And, even without explicit blackmail, a gay cleric needs a few dollars more than an honest celibate priest, if only to keep his boyfriend in holidays, meals out, etc . OK, a few hundred thousand dollars more if you are Fat Eddie Arsenault in New Hampshire.

https://www.doj.nh.gov/news-and-media/indictments-charging-edward-j-arsenault-iii-theft-filed-today

And, even if he is financially honest, a bent cleric will keep quiet about sexual morality. In the modern church, you can blather till your tongue falls out about social justice, the environment, loving the poor, etc. So no one, least of all your bishop, will care that you are avoiding hot button issues. Ex-Father Richard Barton was quite frank about his preaching practices.

"For years, in the parishes in which I served, I played down the church’s moral teaching and never really preached about sexual matters. Instead I focused on what I saw to be more important issues such as social justice"

https://newhumanist.org.uk/articles/5119/leaving-the-priesthood-a-personal-story

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