WHAT PARENTS NEED TO TEACH THEIR KIDS ABOUT HOMOSEXUALITY
Don’t expect them to learn this in school or in church
In November 2018, then-Tyler Bishop Joseph Strickland courageously addressed the problem of clerical sexual predation and homosexual misconduct at the meeting of the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops (USCCB). During that same gathering, the Rev. Dr. D. Paul Sullins distributed copies of his clerical sex abuse report which documented how “the proportion of homosexual men in the priesthood correlated almost perfectly with the percentage of male victims and with the overall incidence of abuse.” Unfortunately, Dr. Sullins’ report was covered up by the bishops, the vast majority of whom are homosexually oriented.
Insofar as most American-born priests are also homosexuals, one cannot expect Catholic laity to be informed of reports like those written by Dr. Sullins, or to be taught why the Catholic Church, as well as other major world religions like Judaism and Islam, for centuries have found homosexual behavior to be a violation of the natural law. Because of the real threat that children face of being groomed and recruited today by members of the LGBTQ community, Catholic parents may benefit from instruction that will allow them to explain homosexuality to their children in a cogent and informative manner.
One of the best sources for such information is the Ruth Institute, founded by Dr. Jennifer Roback Morse. Members of the Institute, including Dr. Sullins, believe that children benefit most from mothers and fathers who cooperate in a lifelong union of love, surrounded by a culture that respects and supports these aspirations. An excellent, succinct report on homosexuality published by the Institute is entitled Refuting the Top 5 Gay Myths.
The five myths that the report refutes are:
Sexual orientation can be easily and scientifically defined.
People are born either gay or straight.
No one can change his or her sexual orientation.
The attempt to change sexual orientation is harmful.
LGBT people experience mental health issues because society discriminates against them.
Rather than recapitulating these myths in this report, I encourage readers to read Refuting the Top 5 Gay Myths. My pastoral and supervisory experience supports the findings contained in the report.
Most of the homosexuals whom I have encountered were either sexually abused during their period of psychosexual development or reported a family dynamic that impacted their sexual orientation and behavior. When one cleric opined that a lack of a father and a dominating mother in his life contributed more to his homosexual orientation than the abuse he was subjected to by a predator priest, I posited that his lack of a father may have predisposed him to being groomed and abused. Hence, there are cases when both circumstances may occur which can lead one to be homosexual.
The fact that homosexuality has nothing to do with genetics and is the result of learned behavior is also supported by studies showing that adult children of gay and lesbian parents are less likely to identify as heterosexual as adults and much more likely to report same-sex attraction. Some studies also show how children of gay or lesbian parents may be more likely to have social and emotional problems than children raised in homes with a mother and father.
The belief that the lack of a father in one’s life can impact a person’s sexual orientation is supported by the fact that Black Americans, who often grow up without a father, are more likely to identify themselves as lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender than any other racial or ethnic group in the nation. The lack of fathers in the home is also a major driver of Black incarceration rates.
Being sexually abused or growing up without a father, which can contribute to men and women becoming gay or lesbian, reminds one of how some children of alcoholic parents can grow up to become alcoholics, and how boys who witness their fathers abusing their mothers can later abuse their wives. Learned behavior, and the fact that there is no “gay gene,” prove that people are not born gay or lesbian.
One can only pity the thousands of innocent young men and boys who were groomed and abused in seminaries, many of whom are homosexual bishops, priests, and seminarians today. Even if they are not sexual predators, how many of them have been shown to cover up the abuse of others, failed to condemn the chemical and surgical mutilation of children, or question the wisdom of allowing gay and lesbian couples to parent children who have a diminished chance of begetting children of their own?
In the past, parents worried that their teenage daughter might get pregnant or their teenage son might get a girl pregnant. Today, parents have to worry that teachers or fellow students might cause their children to wrestle with gender dysphoria. The fact that one can change one’s LGBTQ identity, and that conversion therapy aimed at reducing unwanted homosexual or lesbian attraction makes people less likely to consider suicide than those who continue to live the unbridled LGBTQ lifestyle, needs to be taught to every young man and woman.
The Ruth Institute has produced several videos and published many articles and reports that can help prevent people, especially teenage children, from being misled about topics that members of the LGBTQ community have misrepresented. Catholic laity must make up for what many Catholic clergy may not be teaching. The Ruth Institute stands ready to help my Substack readers and to counter misinformation which includes Refuting the Top 5 Gay Myths.
If you appreciate my research and writings, please contribute to the “Save Our Seminarians” Fund that will help safeguard young men from becoming victims of homosexual predation in U.S. Catholic seminaries.
Gene Thomas Gomulka is a sexual abuse victims’ advocate, investigative reporter, and screenwriter. A former Navy (O6) Captain/Chaplain, seminary instructor, and diocesan Respect Life Director, Gomulka was ordained a priest for the Altoona-Johnstown diocese and later made a Prelate of Honor (Monsignor) by St. John Paul II. Email him at msgr.investigations@gmail.com.
Excellent. I personally knew a man in his late forties who told me he was molested in Fourth Grade in a Parochial School bathroom by a "very mature eight grade boy." When I responded to him that he was a victim of sexual abuse as a child, he looked puzzled.
I told him U can almost guarantee the his abuser was himself a victim of an older male homosexual.
The poor man thought for a few minutes and then his eyes filled up with tears and he sat down and cried. I prayed he could find the right therapist to assist him in his realization.
I also was friendly with a young man, whose mother committed suicide, after he told her that her former husband (policeman stepfather) had molested him . He realized that was why he thought himself to be homosexual.
One thing I would add is that sexual perversion can propagate if the victim does not come to terms that he was NOT born that way, but in reality suffered a psycho sexual trauma they cannot emotionally resolve.
This article presents factual information grounded in natural law and historical context. Some individuals may reject these facts, often citing personal autonomy or free will as justification. There is a recurring argument that contemporary society is more enlightened and knowledgeable, which encourages a reconsideration of deviations from traditionally accepted moral standards and natural law principles. To look at our society now is to see it is devolving. (The absurd and ridiculous I do not know what a woman ism comments! [Also an obvious lie.])
People in the areas of reason and morality are becoming weaker and dumber. Yes many (most) of the bishops are homosexual. Many were probably groomed and abused themselves. Many I would argue are narcissistic amoral or immoral men and the homosexual veneer hides a much darker and evil psychology. I fear many ‘enjoy’ the predatory and oppressive ability to control their prey, more than the sexual act. How often have we seen these bishops go after the victims to destroy them? On the other hand we see these Bishops go after those who have exposed the abuse and spoken out for the victims, seeking to destroy them. The indifference they display is telling, damaging and imparts greater and deeper wounds. For any person who suffered any such serious trauma, we should have great empathy and compassion for them. They should be offered proper, solid therapy.
We need to ask these bishops, what have they in person done to help victims. By this I mean, going to met the victim and listen to them, pay for therapy out of their own pockets, or prehaps engage in proper acts of reparation to God for the good of the victim. Are they following the examples of St. John of God and St. Benedict Joseph Labre?
Most Bishops today seem to fit this quote from G.K. Chesterton “The Christian ideal has not been tried and found wanting; it has been found difficult and left untried.” They seem to find the faith to be built on the Ten Suggestions and amorphous theories. “I am the way the truth and the light”, makes Christ just a pleasant chap in their minds. But I do hold to what Hilaire Belloc wrote: “The Church is a perpetually defeated thing that always outlives her conquerors.”